“Dignity is the moment you realize God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad. Dignity is the moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom. Dignity is the moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter. Dignity is the moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself. Dignity is the moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.”
“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t being said. The art of reading between the lines is a life-long quest of the wise.” Shannon Alder
I know that many times I do not embrace the moment. I over think what everybody is saying and doing and neglect the reality of the people in my vicinity. Thanksgiving is a time to be thankful and most of us would say that we are but demonstrating it and actually feeling it in the heart is another story. I know of some people who say I enjoyed it but, I had a good time but, It was wonderful but. I would like to throw out the buts. It appears to be crucial for them to downplay the whole experience.
“If you search the world for happiness, you may find it in the end, for the world is round and will lead you back to your door.” Robert Brault
“Where the loser saw barriers, the winner saw hurdles.”
“The little money I have – that is my wealth, but the things I have for which I would not take money, that is my treasure.” Robert Brault
“There is an ongoing battle between conscience and self-interest in which, at some point, we have to take sides.” Robert Brault
Has anyone noticed that the more we fill up our lives with objects, things to do, shopping, and extra work for money the more we shove out love? It seems like a ludicrous statement to make and most of us might say I don’t do that and love always comes first with me. I guess I am just challenging the concepts in our minds that we choose to believe against the reality of what actually appears to happen.
The best of us honestly believe that we must give our kids and families more and better. Hence we add-on extra work to gain more money. We go places which costs money and do things as well as buy things so that we can please the kids and spouses. we think about expensive items we can purchase that will be something of a surprise for our loved ones. Continue reading →
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” Isaac Asimov
“They have the unique ability to listen to one story and understand another.” Pandora Poikilos
“Don’t build roadblocks out of assumptions.” Lorii Myers
“Life is a series of events and sensations. Everything else is interpretation. Much is lost in translation and added in assumption / projection” Rasheed Ogunlaru
How sure we all are of what is the hidden truth behind everyone’s motives and frustrations. We think we know why a person said what they said and did what they did. At least that is what we assume. Nobody lets us in on the secret that we assume too much and most of the time if not all of the time we are wrong. I say this with belief in what I know to be the reality beneath our facades.
At a function if I approach a couple of people who appear to be laughing but then stop when I approach, I am sure they are not likely fond of me. It is as if I have ruined their good time and exchange. If I could leave it there it would be okay but this is not the case. I dwell on the event throughout the night and observe them for more signals of their lack of interest in me. I realize everything doesn’t involve me but that s why I sense others are not impressed with me so my confidence is shaken and I become quiet and start taking in the behaviors of others present. The more I see the more I begin attributing connotations for the words and actions of others. Of course my confidence is at an all time low. Continue reading →
“That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending – performing. You get to love your pretense. It’s true, we’re locked in an image, an act – and the sad thing is, people get so used to their image, they grow attached to their masks. They love their chains. They forget all about who they really are. And if you try to remind them, they hate you for it, they feel like you’re trying to steal their most precious possession.” Jim Morrison
“The heart of the world is breaking under this load of pride and pretense. There is no release from our burden apart from the meekness of Christ.” A.W. Tozer
“Whatever is above will be managed by the powers above you. Don’t live as a man, pretending to be God. Do what you can do; leave what you can’t to God!” Israelmore Ayivor
Likely we are all tired of being afraid to admit we are scared most of our lives. Presenting ourselves as capable human beings is the norm. Any of us that fall short of the mark simply hide the truth sometimes even from ourselves. Most of our frustrations deadlines jobs and burdens have more to do with how others may perceive us if we fall short of the time restraints.
Our spouses get upset with us when we haven’t fulfilled an ongoing project. Our kids want us to do things or fix things or take them places. We believe we fail as a parent if we haven’t brought our children to places to experience this and that. It isn’t so much where we find the fault but the fact that we find ourselves lacking most of the time. Continue reading →