Have you ever noticed that when you have a sense of confidence and self-worth your sense of self is enhanced and you feel and see things more deeply? It feels like you can conquer the world.
Young people, especially children, leap from all kinds of heights having faith in their ability to do the impossible and land on their feet. Many times they are successful as adults look on in astonishment and thankfulness that they didn’t break any bones in their efforts.
What is it that makes children overflow with confidence in their ability to do whatever it is they imagine? When did we replace our confidence with insecurity? How do we get back our confidence as we age through life and living?
Those Days of Insecurity
When we are sad it feels like we don’t know which way to go or what to do. The lost feeling creeps in and we begin to question every decision we make. Not only that, but we doubt so many of our past decisions that we think contaminate every area of our lives.
Most of our decisions are final and there is no going back. We question our choice of a life partner because they don’t live up to our expectations. We expected to gain a supporter and cheerleader along with a shoulder to cry on, but that didn’t happen. We receive a lot less than that and wonder how our life may have been different. Continue reading →
“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t being said. The art of reading between the lines is a life long quest of the wise.” Shannon L. Alder
“Be careful not to mistake insecurity and inadequacy for humility! Humility has nothing to do with the insecure and inadequate! Just like arrogance has nothing to do with greatness!” C. Joy Bell C.
“Often those that criticize others reveal what he himself lacks.” Shannon L. Alder
“There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone.” Shannon L. Alder
Have you ever noticed how easily someone can knock you off of your game plan and cause you to doubt yourself? All they need to do is plant those little seeds of doubt or give the quick retort that leaves you questioning what they meant for days. We all fall prey to these people who come in the form of friends, family co-workers and unfriendly ties. Continue reading →
“Disbelief held me down inside my footsteps, making my body heavy but my heart wild.” Markus Zusak
“A child has no trouble believing the unbelievable, nor does the genius or the madman. It’s only you and I, with our big brains and our tiny hearts, who doubt and overthink and hesitate.” Steven Pressfield
“Humanity does not suffer from the disease of wrong beliefs but humanity suffers from the contagious nature of the lack of belief. If you have no magic with you it is not because magic does not exist but it is because you do not believe in it. Even if the sun shines brightly upon your skin every day, if you do not believe in the sunlight, the sunlight for you does not exist.” C. JoyBell C.
I find it too easy to trust others and I end up hurt and then in disbelief regarding their honesty. I suppose that is what makes most of us become a doubting person. We might go to a party with every intention f having a good time and immediately get hit with another’s angry mood or wrath thrown towards us. Maybe we go home wondering why and as much focus given we come up with no answers. The disappointment is huge and sometimes anger and disbelief creep in about their kindness towards us. Of course the sadness takes over and we are left with only unhappiness. Continue reading →
“You don’t always have to defend yourself in words. Silence gives people the clue you have better thoughts in mind.” Pinterest (anonymous)
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” Albert Einstein
“An old man said “Erasers are made for those who make mistakes.” A youth replied, “Erasers are made for those who are willing to correct their mistakes!” Attitude matters. Anonymous
How difficult it is to discover the self and uncover some hidden truths about the ways we sabotage our life. I suppose we are thinking that is not true. I know I attempt to discover who I am all the time and understand myself. If I discover a problem I try to fix it or if I discover something worthy I work to make it better. I don’t want to waste my time on falsehoods but the truth in my attempts is I want to discover what makes me who I am. Continue reading →
“Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother.” Kahlil Gibran
“Faith is to see what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe. People hate the truth for the sake of whatever it is they love more than the truth. They love the truth when it shines warmly on them, and hate it when it rebukes them.” Saint Augustine
“Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe.” Voltaire
“The truth is like a lion, you don’t have to defend it, it will defend itself.” Anonymous
I used to actually have the belief that I did not doubt anyone. I pride myself at leaving my bag in a church bench when I go up to the alter at the front of the church. Wow I am a trusting person. Simple acts like that made me have faith in myself for being a trusting person. Now I have my doubts. I looked up doubt in the dictionary and found such definitions as hesitation. I am crushed already because I am a very cautious person unless there is an emergency. Reservations and misgivings appear to be almost natural for most of us. After all we all sense that there are a lot of people “OUT THERE” who will hurt us if they have the chance. Continue reading →
“I have self-doubt. I have insecurity. I have fear of failure. I have nights when I show up at the arena and I’m like, ‘My back hurts, my feet hurt, my knees hurt. I don’t have it. I just want to chill.’ We all have self-doubt. You don’t deny it, but you also don’t capitulate to it. You embrace it.” Kobe Bryant
“Confidence is a plant of slow growth.” Herbert V. Prochnow
“Our greatest glory is not in never-failing but in rising up every time we fail.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Confidence in yourself has a lot to do with believing in your competence. Whenever we feel we are less of a person, we tend to cower away from others and attempt to stand in the background. Many times we lose the capacity to offer opinions to anything, believing our ideas will be either shot down or laughed at. This wastes a lot of good ideas that were never verbally spoken.
Most of the time we don’t see ourselves the way others do or we promote a different picture of what we truly are. We basically hide the real us because we doubt our competence. I see this as viewing a person who may appear confident because they offer small talk and seem outgoing. They at times hide their abilities. We never view the capacity they have. Continue reading →
“If you think you are too little to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.”
“Love is the absence of judgment.”
“Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.” ― Dalai Lama
Many people appear so kind and wonderful. It makes one want to imitate them. They are self-assured, advance presumptuously forward, have their act together and of course possess all of the answers. They are so unlike the rest of us who doubt, fear, regret, worry, and constantly deal with guilt. I wondered why these few people were confident. The more I observed them, the less than perfect they became until they were beginning to annoy me so I stopped observing and started analyzing my thoughts about them.
The realization that these people were probably less aware of truth than all of us doubters was an enlightenment. When we experience guilt, it is at times because we understand the wrong that we committed. Those who think they are perfect spend little time reflecting because they assume they are always doing and saying the right thing. Continue reading →
“Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother.” Khalil Gibran
“The greatest obstacle to being heroic is the doubt whether one may not be going to prove one’s self a fool; the truest heroism is to resist the doubt; and the profoundest wisdom, to know when it ought to be resisted, and when it be obeyed.” Nathaniel Hawthorne
I don’t believe the opposite of love is hate. i think the opposite of love is doubt. We love the people who constantly come through for us. How could we not? It is easy to care for these people because they help us and stand by us for the most part. parents love their kids regardless of any love in return. Many kids love parents regardless of the fact they were abandoned or abused.
When anyone hurts us deliberately or accidentally we swiftly turn on them. It isn’t from a lack of love but a lack of doubt in the relationship. Kids have faith their parents love them even though they are abused. They stand by this belief until they are given an alternative method of measurement. When the questions arise the love fades. Continue reading →