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Sensitivity Is Not For The Cowardly

download“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”  Albert Einstein

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by his ability to climb a tree, it will live it’s whole life  believing it is stupid.” Albert  Einstein

Everyone has some sensitivity to certain situations. We all have those moments when either the floodgates open up or we contain the explosion within barely being able to speak. What triggers these emotions varies from person to person, and experience to experience. There are sensitive subjects each one of us may respond to. There are those individuals who respond to every hurt, as if they were a magnet unable to keep it away. Others appear to bounce off the pains, but none of us know how others deal with their pain, in the privacy of their own homes.

It might appear we are the only ones, taking the hits of emotional stress. The trouble is we all can hide it so well. Some of us attempt to hide it by wearing our glasses, or going to the bathroom, or changing the subject. Some people laugh about emotional states, while quietly cry on the inside. With practice we get better. We prevent others from knowing the truth about our sentiments. Continue reading

Roads That Lead Nowhere

“Life is no straight and easy corridor along which we travel free and unhampered, but a maze of passages, through which we must seek our way, lost and confused, now and again checked in a blind alley. But always, if we have faith, a door will open for us, not perhaps one that we ourselves would ever have thought of, but one that will ultimately prove good for us.” A. J. Cronin

“You may encounter many defeats but you must not be defeated. In fact it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are , what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”    Maya Angelou

I have recently been the recipient of 3 young peoples’ cries for help. It seems to be an epidemic. Young people get so lost in their unhappiness and powerlessness that they spiral downward quickly. Maybe it is time for all of us to recognize the needs and implores of others. Sometimes through helping another, we can also help ourselves. So many feel trapped in an existence that they cannot control or change. Of course this isn’t always the case but if one believes it to be true then for all intensive purposes it is. We need to break the spiral by recognizing the triggers sooner and intervening. Continue reading

Infuriating People

“Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius and a lot of courage to move in the opposite direction. Peace cannot be kept by force, it can only be achieved by understanding.” Albert Einstein

Being an observer, I noticed how many of us get fired up about things that are aggravating or upsetting. We tend to dwell on those issues that anger us. The more we think about it and discuss it, the stronger the flame gets. It makes us want to correct the problem or so we think. So we lash out at the object of our perceived frustration throwing all of our blaze at them. We watch as our opponent burns to ashes.  We walk away satisfied. On our way back to sanity we convince ourselves or try to convince ourselves that they deserved it, and maybe even made us do it. we were correct to retaliate. Continue reading

Baby Steps Inspire Forward Movement

“Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. They’re what make the instrument stretch-what makes you go beyond the norm.”    Cicely Tyson

There are so many times when i wanted to speak up and say something or defend someone or state a fact. I waited too long because I  was nervous and I missed the opportunity. When I listen to a discussion and believe what is being said is an untruth, I can feel my body tense and my heart begins to race. i want to speak but I keep waiting for the right moment to jump in. The time never happens. I am left depleted and discouraged. I believe I have no confidence and I am disgusted with myself and the person who spoke falsehoods without being challenged. Continue reading

Is Technology Destroying Our Humanity ?

“Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught.” Oscar Wilde

At one time children were taught to use various modes of speech in any given circumstance. When in the presence of parents, they might use one form while at school another form. When outside with friends, children could break down the barriers and say just about whatever they wanted. The formal speech was used for those in authority, while the respectful courtesy speech might be used with strangers. Today we have no filters used for anyone at any place or situation we find ourselves in. The result is an insensitivity regarding our fellow human beings. It has also resulted in fostering anger, frustration aggression and hurt feelings which diminish self-esteem. Quick replies via technology of all sorts are the current mode of speech. How technology is destroying humanity should be contemplated. It is time for us to control technology rather than technology controlling us. Continue reading