Tag Archives: energy

Consider What Counts

“You give but little when you give of your own possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” Kahil Gibran

We search for things all the time. We can never seem to get everything done by the end of the day. We think, maybe if I try harder tomorrow or give up some lunch time or get out earlier from work or get up earlier etc. We’re all lacking time yet we are not so worried about time. It’s as if we want all their is in the amount of time we get in a day. Continue reading

Escape the Fear And Anxiety

“To doubt everything or to believe everything are two equally convenient solutions ; both dispense with the necessity of reflection.” Jules Henri

Fear can and does take over our lives. Chunking down our fears shows us they are unfounded in almost every situation. Let’s face it, we are paying a terrible toll for what most likely will never occur. We may pity the person who is afraid of heights or afraid to go into crowds yet we don’t notice our own shortcomings regarding fear. We fear another’s getting the better of us so we contradict what they say. later we regret what we said and more anxiety prevails. We add some guilt on top of the fear. It might be easier for us all if we make a conscious attempt to think before we speak. Once we’ve spoken we need not wonder about worthiness or repercussions of our actions. Continue reading

Jealousy Elevates Stress

“Some tension is good for the soul to grow, and we can put that intention to good use. We can look for every opportunity to give and receive love, to appreciate nature, to heal our wounds and the wounds of others, to forgive and to serve.” Joan Borysenko, from Handbook for the Soul

I keep coming back to fear because more mothers-in-law (MIL) and daughters-in-law (DIL) ask questions that are basically loaded with their fears. they do not specifically say I fear this or that but it blazes through their questions. DIL’s fear losing control, measuring up, and losing their husbands love. They worry about being number one. MIL’s fear losing their son and grandchildren. they angst over losing their sons’ confidence in them because of feeling undermined with truth stretching by their DIL. I think that love, jealousy and power are the culprits. We don’t have to be a MIL or a DIL to want these things. We are too wrapped up in power and control. Continue reading

Escape to Your Happy Place

Has anyone discovered how fast our energy depletes when we are around negative thinking people?

At times, we may give freely of our advice and listening ear but sometimes we deplete our own resources. We are not always aware of how easily they take our energy. Likewise, we can deplete our own energy when we spend so much time reflecting on the hurts and insults we received throughout the day. In order to release these harmful thoughts, we must review the positive remarks others have sent our way and drop the negative emotions tied to any words or actions sent our way. Continue reading

We All Need Space

“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” John Wooden

Needing space is not always about the living area. At times we need a break from certain people. We may love them and care about them but we need a break from them. By recognizing this important fact, we can keep a distance when necessary and not only maintain a relationship but have no guilt. When we attend to others we have a feeling of duty to be at their disposal. Maybe this is feasible some of the time. It is impossible to achieve all of the time. Admitting our own needs and responsibilities may alleviate the anxious feelings we have when we can’t always solve other people’s problems. Having empathy does not mean we can’t say no. At times we must say no at least for that moment. At a later date we may be able to fulfill another’s need but not at the present time. Continue reading