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“Nothing reduces the odds against you like ignoring them.”
~ Robert Brault

“If man were relieved of all superstition, and all prejudice, and had replaced these with a keen sensitivity to his real environment, and moreover had achieved a level of communication so simplified that one syllable could express his every thought, then he would have achieved the level of intelligence already achieved by his dog.”        Robert Brault

It is always so difficult for us to change our ways or ideas or beliefs. We sometimes blame it on age. I have heard it said that you can’t alter people after they are older and “set”  in their ways. That to me is like saying we lose our thought processes. As long as we have the ability to reflect and analyze, then we have the ability to amend what isn’t working in our lives and relationships. Maybe alteration is elusive because it demands effort, abandonment of old ideas, uncertainty and some faith in the outcome.

It may at times  feel like  we are allowing others to dictate how we should think or feel. We blindly oppose. Other times we are too tired to reflect that much about an issue we believe is not really related to us personally. We also get so comfortable in our own niche that it would be upsetting to let go of the old and begin  the new. Continue reading

Keep Goals Firm, Disregard Doubts

“Without involvement there is no commitment. Mark it down, asterisk it, circle it, underline it. No involvement no commitment.” Stephen Covey

Many of us have already set New Year’s resolutions. Most of us would agree that we will most likely not achieve them. That is the problem. If you think you can’t achieve a goal then you are probably correct. In order to attain anything, we need to believe we can do it. Surprisingly, most things we set our mind to do, we are capable of doing. Believing we can is the factor. Often the goals are too difficult or unrealistic to achieve immediately or without setbacks along the way. As a result, we release our goals and efforts as soon as we cave. This is a mistake. Nothing great is accomplished the first time trying. Think about the baby steps. Every time we succeeded a bit more than the day before. Continue reading

When Loneliness Defeats Drive

“When nothing seems to help I go and look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it but all that had gone before.”  Jacob Riis

I watched as the man shuffled down the aisle carrying a weight around his waist which screamed anxiety to me. He appeared to be quite old until I glimpsed his face and discovered he was maybe at the end of middle-age. He certainly had many more good years to offer but not to his thinking. It seemed apparent he had lost the fight, given up and resolved to sit back and watch others live while he wasted. I had seen him many times before and spoke briefly a few of those moments. In another time he was vibrant, astute and humorous. I felt disheartened watching him. What happened I asked myself. Why the change I reflected. I recalled a few reasons and problems he endured and was distressed at how the flow of life beats us down if it can. Sometimes the harder we attempt to fight back, the stronger we are forced to the ground and eventually crushed. Wait a minute I thought. Not everyone stays down. Some get back up on their feet not necessarily swinging but definitely smiling. Continue reading