“Thus each person by his fears, gives wings to rumor and without any real source of apprehension, men fear what they themselves have imagined.” Lucan
The trouble with relationships is we hide so much of our feelings. That is really not good. the relationships are not real if we pretend all is well when we are not believing it to be true. if you are unhappy, you need to honestly state your opinion. If after both of you support and share your own argument and it does not change each other’s frame of mind then admit a stalemate hang on to your thoughts and move forward.
In the future it is possible that either of you might change your minds but in the meantime accept compromise and respect of each other by agreeing to disagree. When each of us can accept our differences and still be friends then we have acquired a genuine friendship and love. This is far better than to imagine we are on the same page at all times when it isn’t the truth. We really would never be expected to see all things in the same way. Continue reading →
“Genius is the ability to reduce the complicated to the simple.” C. W. Ceram
“The life of a winner is the result of an unswerving commitment to a never-ending process of self-completion.” Terry Bradshaw
Avoiding conflict of course is easier said than done. One needs to think about strategies before the conflict. Planning your approaches beforehand is essential to their implementation and success. It is strange how most of us want the discussion with the person we are fighting with, during the heat of the moment. Nothing could be worse. We are all in such a keyed up state of mind that we are not close to wanting any compromise. We are out for proving our argument or seeking revenge. Our mind and body need time to clear, calm down and take a second look when the fire is out. Continue reading →
“People love others not for what hey are, but for how they make us feel.” Irwin Federman
Mothers-in-law who encourage any type of competition might possibly find it can influence the closeness of their children. The result may be a competitive relationship amongst their children. Downplaying competitive behavior allows for a more supportive kind of connection to develop. None of us will discuss our mistakes or trials to another person that we view as a competitor rather than a supporter. We then lose the chance of gaining support and encouragement. Losing does not always spur a person to try harder. Continue reading →