Mercy Is The Other Side Of Love

“I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
 Oscar Wilde
"There is a God, there always has been. I see him here, in the eyes of the people in this [hospital] corridor of desperation. This is the real house of God, this is where those who have lost God will find Him... there is a God, there has to be, and now I will pray, I will pray that He will forgive that I have neglected Him all of these years, forgive that I have betrayed, lied, and sinned with impunity only to turn to Him now in my hour of need. I pray that He is as merciful, benevolent, and gracious as His book says He is.” Khaled Hosseini

I was looking up the word mercy the other day and discovered  so many words attached to it that it surprised me due to their different meanings like the words kindness, understanding and generosity. We might ask ourselves what does generosity have to do with mercy. Of course if you forgive someone who may not deserve forgiveness in most peoples’  eyes, so  perhaps you have bestowed mercy in a generous way. I had to think about it for a long time. Continue reading “Mercy Is The Other Side Of Love”

The Need To Be Understood

The Need To Be Understood“In the past there were people who were not rich but contented with their living style, laughing and happy all day. But when the new rich people appear, people look at them and ask, ‘why don’t I have a life like that too, a beautiful house, car and garden,’ and they abandon their values.”    Thich Nhat Hanh

“People suffer because they are caught in their views. As soon as we release those views, we are free and we don’t suffer anymore.”    Thich Nhat Hanh

~ “Mindfulness helps you go home to the present. And every time you go there and recognize a condition of happiness that you have, happiness comes.”     Thich Nhat Hanh

Here we go again attempting to explain what we meant by our recent discourse. The person misinterpreted our meaning. I would not doubt for  a second, how many times we are caught in such a situation. We just don’t grasp the implications from our interactions with others. The result is bewildering and hurt feelings. Misunderstandings and long time  rifts of one sort or another are inevitable.

How do we complicate the meaning of what others are trying to say and how do others misinterpret our words and bring doubt and mistrust into the relationship. We grasp what we want in any of our conversations. Our misunderstanding of the  encounter, causes us to  choose a negative review of the incident. We dwell on the tiniest insult while ignoring any praise. We have set ourselves up for failure.

For sure we don’t plan to be downbeat, but we sometimes have an attitude of what a person believes,  before they begin explaining something. In a way we have already selectively decided their points of view, which we usually deduce is contrary to our own.  We argue on cue. It leaves the accused, clarifying their thoughts. Accusations tend to trouble most of us, so to attempt elucidating our reasoning only confuses our accuser and ourselves. When anyone is on the proverbial hot seat, it is difficult to think clearly.

Pondering why so many of us deliberately recall exchanges with others, in such a manner disarray, is confounding. Perhaps some of us enjoy the uncomfortable position we placed another individual. Whatever the causes we likely have experienced both sides of such a situation. There is no winner only wasted time, effort and exacerbated feelings.

Delving more deeply into such occurrences, you find how needy we are for love, attention and to be understood. Perhaps we are angrier at someone’s lack of appreciating, our time and effort for doing something. Probably they don’t quite acknowledge enough empathy, for the situation we find ourselves in. Most likely we have a sense of being misunderstood, or under-appreciated for who we are, or what we do.

Exchanges in disagreements, allow us to continue in a more controversial manner. We are able to add our own agendas, and issues to the mix. Past hurts and unfinished business, sheds even more shadows onto the current dilemma. At best, when the argument has finished, we find how far we have ventured, from the original renditions of opinions. We find it further from the subject, that originated the controversy.

Most definitely we are all influenced by our obstacles in life. We see the world with different glasses, and our deductions are blurred and muddied by our past and present hindrances. We can’t always scream out, “Well it is easy for you to say that because you have more money, more support, a husband that listens, adult kids living close by or whatever else bothers us. Instead we ream the person who antagonized us,  for things they perhaps are not even guilty of. Our pain is hidden, but unresolved, and left to fester. We have the added burden of a broken relationship.

How does one compare lives or problems. Suffice it to say we all have our own challenges to overcome, and our battles to fight. We admit this up front, but then we proceed to lay it all out, and unravel and decipher our grasp of the situation. If we could see this from a child’s perspective, it would be like comparing who has the better toy truck. Does it matter?  It really doesn’t help either of the combatants.

Forgiveness is without a doubt, the most obvious solution to finding peace. The problem is at times, we still withhold it in our hearts. The words are spoken, but not deeply felt. It takes some compassion, and mindfulness to appreciate the depth of the hurt, and the unclear enlightenment attempting to filter into our thoughts and hearts.

Let’s face it, at times we are not always impressed with another person’s issues, because we deem our own to be so much worse. We try so hard to decode and decipher our problems, and it leaves us little time for sympathizing with others. Honestly, when we make time for another, we gain time for ourselves. Somehow the answers to our problems are possibly hidden in the obstacles another faces. It sheds light on our unclear thoughts and questions.

It is so unnerving to be in the position of clarifying, and elucidating our gist and intentions. Especially noteworthy is the perplexing insinuations, we sometimes unconsciously imply with our words. We want acknowledgement, attention, and love. We  want respect, and understanding. Our need to be noticed, is relevant in our desire for worth, for being of value, for receiving love in this whole wide universe.

What we perhaps hear at any given moment, is our own heart’s calling for love. We really are not so different nor separated in our wants and desires. Understanding how similar we are, ensures our ability for mindfulness. If we can get out of our heads, for a little bit, and get into our hearts, we will easily understand the unspoken words. Peace is attained, when we find more answers to the questions  we haven’t yet asked. Reflect in the silence, and discover serenity.

“Breathe in deeply to bring your mind home to your body. Then look at, or think of, the person triggering this emotion: With mindfulness, you can see that she is unhappy, that she is suffering. You can see her wrong perceptions. You can see that she is not beautiful when she says things that are unkind.”    Thich Nhat Hanh

Let us fill our hearts with our own compassion – towards ourselves and towards all living beings.    Thich Nhat Hanh

“To be loved means to be recognized as existing.”    Thich Nhat Hanh

“We are all the leaves of one tree; we are all the waves of one sea; the time has come for all to live as one.”    Thich Nhat Hanh

Reduce Your Problems

coping“There is no effect more disproportionate to its cause than the happiness bestowed by a small compliment.”    Robert Brault

 “every sunrise is an invitation for us to rise and brighten someone’s day.  Richelle E. Goodrich

I recently heard from a young friend that her parents were getting a divorce. They had been married over 25 yrs. My friend is married yet so very hurt, and yes traumatized. It might seem crazy but divorce hurts the children, regardless of their age. It brings it back to relationships and understanding.

At times, we just don’t understand others motives, words or actions. Many times we jump to conclusions that are not true. As a daughter-in-law, I remember times when I felt the cold shoulder from my mother-in-law, and I would think hard about what I might have done to cause it. Now that I am a mother-in-law, I wonder why my daughters-in-law at times, are so quiet. I sat down one day and laughed because it occurred to me that maybe they had just had a fight with their husband, or somebody else, and their attitudes had nothing to do with me.

We assume everything is about us. but if we reflect enough, we realize that the world is not revolving around any of us. Others are not pondering what we do or say. We should not take brashness to heart. It might be coming from so many places and our mother-in-law,  and daughter-in-law relationship, does not need this pressure. Believing we are on safe ground with our in-laws, allows us the freedom to relax and trust in the relationship. Entertaining thoughts of skepticism, breeds suspicion and doubt. If everything we say and do is never ever done with any malice or revenge, then we are secure in an honest trustworthy situation. Let the awkward moods pass unnoticed. We all have bad days.

It is difficult to comprehend the suffering another endures, when dealing with an illness. The trauma of the death or a divorce of a spouse can rip open our hearts. Watching our kids suffer from lack of food or warmth is overwhelming. Fearing our spouse’s anger, and violence due to a job loss, is demolishing. The anxious moments experienced as we endure a loved one’s deterioration from an addiction, is defeating. In all of the other less dramatic, but moderately stress producing situations, we step and falter while trying  to move on. How good we all are at hiding our thoughts and fears.

Some of us even analyze our situation and then conclude We have no right to complain about our troubles, because it isn’t important enough to count. This is absurd, because anything that brings pain, needs to be brought to the attention of others. As was said before, at times it is the accumulation of burdens, that disrupts our lives. When someone voices their pain and troubles, make an effort to help, simply by listening. It is not time to judge or compare.

We are  not alone, and we can learn empathy, by reflecting on a person’s dilemmas. The more empathetic people we have in the world, the less we are moving towards getting our feelings stepped on. There will also be more listening ears and less stress. Sympathy can never be underestimated, but our survival depends on compassion and kindness. I am still of the opinion that physical contact, or even voice contact, is the best because you observe the facial expressions and engage with the voice. The energy  transfers to us and is uplifting.

Dreadful situations attack everyone. Although the suffering differs, the similarities are not. We all need food, clothing, shelter, acceptance, pride, work and love. When any of these are attacked, we become fearful and unsure of our next move. Although we feel we are alone, we have a common bond with the rest of the world. Sometimes I wonder if we have sheltered ourselves from the physical presence of others. We receive so much information regarding numerous other people through technology, yet it allows us a limited time to sincerely respond to anyone who may need us.

In order to understand other people’s problems, we must recall our own issues that are similar. As we get better at this, we begin to realize how similar we are. We all  have emotional, physical and spiritual pain. It differs in some respects, but correlates in most ways. As we age, most of us lose parents. No one is ever ready. Coping is hard, and we all have our own unique memories, that often return, and remind us of our loss.

When we have come through a difficult situation, we might venture to offer sympathy to another, who is newly experiencing the painful episode. Offering support is never a waste of our time. Whenever any of us is experiencing a difficult period, it should warrant our attention. We should never ignore a cry help.

 By wrapping our sympathy around our empathy, we dig deeper into a person’s soul. It makes us one in understanding each other, without having to experience all the same problems. In a way we begin to sense what another feels, allowing us to empathize with the pain. I believe the more we are able to identify with others, in happiness and pain, the more we realize we are alike.

Carefree teens eventually become responsible adults. Parents become grandparents. The game of life passes and turns swiftly. It is up to us to make the most of it, while it is possible. Nobody is ahead of us or behind. Everyone’s road has its obstacles, and it is easier if we work together to remove a few. That makes the  load  lighter. All it takes is for us to recognize each other as an extension of ourselves. By reaching that point, we perhaps would find it impossible to pass another being without giving aid.

“If you avoid all of life’s abrasions, you will never be polished enough to shine.” Richelle E. Goodrich

“Don’t ever give up. Don’t ever give in. Don’t ever stop trying. Don’t ever sell out. And if you find yourself succumbing to one of the above for a brief moment, pick yourself up, brush yourself off, whisper a prayer, and start where you left off. But never, ever, ever give up.” Richelle E. Goodrich

When Things Backfire

backfire“Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted.”  Aldous Huxley

“Don’t smother each other, no one can grow in the shade.” leo  Buscaglia

One Mother-in-law complained that her once excellent relationship with her Daughter-in-law was becoming strained. Her DIL, who had just had a baby, was planning on going back to work immediately. The MIL couldn’t understand this because she stated, her DIL had waited and tried for years to get pregnant. She didn’t have to work but chose to return. What came of many discussions was that her DIL had a childhood devoid of a father. Her father died suddenly and her mother had to work to make ends meet. They were poor but they managed. The young woman never forgot her childhood years and just couldn’t bring herself to give up what she considered to be her security. The two agreed to disagree and renewed their relationship.

I think there are many roads to this story. Many of us judge things without having all of the facts. How we grew up, what we were taught, the barriers we constructed or had to overcome are individual. Our viewpoints, trials, tribulations and differences are momentous. We have to look hard to find things we have in common, but there actually are many.

Tolerance understanding patience and time break down the walls. Knowledge evolves which allows us to accommodate our differences, assimilate and move forward. We have our own agendas wants and needs. Everyone likes to control and nobody wants to always finish last. We are so busy we refrain from attempting to explain. Our thoughts get lost in translation. We become abrupt and casual and state the facts. We don’t want to hand hold because we have so many other things to do. So we rarely take the time for explanations.

Our judgments and conclusions can be so far from the mark. One person sees with magnifying glasses and the other person sees with sunglasses. We might all reach the same conclusion and learn the same lessons but in roundabout ways. The MIL believed and rightly so that being there for her children twenty four seven was a good thing. The DIL believed and rightly so that making sure she and her child would never go hungry was a good thing. It boils down to love. If love enters into our decisions we can’t ever be going off track. If we get derailed we get back on the track.

After some soul searching, the mother-in-law admitted she never had any power because she never worked for money. Her care of the kids was barely acknowledged. Although she was very happy to have a husband who made enough money to allow her to be a stay at home mother. She had valued her time with her kids and wanted the same for her daughter-in-law. The trouble was her daughter-in-law loved her baby very much also despite the fact she found it necessary to go  back to work. The mother-in-law relinquished her inflexible attitude and the daughter-in-law forgave the intrusion of privacy. Both women have traveled a long way and smoothed their individual differences.

It’s always possible to observe things with more than one view. Controlling others makes us view things in shadow form while taking a look in the sunlight grants us a more textured look. Disagreeing on how we think about something would not have to ruin a relationship. There wouldn’t be a winner or a loser. Self-esteem continues without a hitch. One less argument is negated.  Life flows better when we lose the desire to top others in arguments or actions. When someone is that annoying we can excuse ourselves and go to the bathroom or another room.

Age span,  heritage, beliefs politically and spiritually and place of work can’t ever dictate winners or losers. If you worry about  walking away with your pride, then consider how another would like to keep their honor. The reasons might be crazy and only understood by the individual but regardless, avoiding aggressive and passive aggressive behavior places  us firmly on the ground and in a positive frame of mind. Everyone goes home with a win.

“If you want to get the best out of a person you must look for the best that is in him.” Bernard Haldane

“Three billion people on the face of the earth go to bed hungry every night, but four billion people go to bed every night hungry for a simple word of encouragement and recognition.” Cavett Robert

Release a Burden Admit You Were Wrong

release a burden admit you were wrong“Human beings are perhaps never more frightening than when they are convinced beyond a doubt that they are right.” Laurens Van der

“I am sorry,” are three little words that are very difficult to say. It is kind of a mystery because we are all so quick to say we know we are not always correct and we admit that we don’t always do the right thing. We have no problem acknowledging we have made mistakes in the past yet in the present it is a different story. It is as if we are a different person and unwilling to concede we were at fault. The earth may shatter if those three words are spoken. How many of us will admit we were partially to blame. We manage to avoid guilt. Maybe we are of the mindset that the other person needs to accept a piece of the fault. It allows us then, to admit our mistakes in the matter and save face. As sorry as a person might be, they will refuse to turn the other cheek if their foe will not take any culpability in the matter. Their apologies will be short lived and most likely they will be on the attack mode again.

 One wonders if we have a sense of inferiority when we have trouble admitting we were wrong. I think it has to do with the fact that we all get hurt when in a disagreement with another. We all have our pride and may not really care who began or finished the altercation but we all want to save our pride. Our Dignity   is more important to us than who is right or wrong. As a result we are trying to justify why we acted the way we did. We can’t admit total blame because we need to make the other person realize what they did to us.

It always turns around to our own hurts. We need to be justified in our poor behavior like we had a right to act with disregard because we were emotionally injured. Maybe we were totally having a bad day and this other person said or did something that irked us and caused us to remember past injuries or experiences of injuries. The volatile situation takes off. We do not want to appear vulnerable so we accuse attack and practically force another to take some responsibility. Because most of us are probably guilty of some blame in the matter, if we accept our share then both parties can walk away with their self-respect intact and absolved of any wrong-doing.

What is most refreshing and cleansing for the soul is to admit total guilt now and again when we have legitimately caused the problem. It is powerful and actually lifts one’s spirits above what they were. Total acceptance is like baring one’s soul to another and lowering oneself. Somehow in this process the opposite is attained. By lowering oneself to another, you become lifted and more regal. Magic happens because the other person is surprised, impressed and sometimes ends up admiring your courage.

I am not suggesting anyone do this without belief in their own faults and belief in taking the higher road. The results are usually a meltdown of the barriers we created and a more honest and open discussion. The facade is not needed. We do not have to hang on to inflated egos. There is no embarrassment to avoid. In such an atmosphere so much more is achieved. Being ourselves is easier, conflict is lessened, listening is heightened, and this reflective experience allows us to comprehend and work towards a positive solution. It is never easy to say we are sorry. It is almost impossible to disclose we were wrong. But when it happens we are rewarded with such a release of tension and anger. We frequently have no regrets we confessed we were sorry.

“Our civilization lacks humane feeling. We are humans who are insufficiently humane! We must realize that and seek to find a new spirit. We have lost the sight of this ideal because we are solely occupied with thoughts of men instead of remembering the thoughts of the spirit. By having a reverence for life we enter into a spiritual relation with the world, by practicing reverence for life we become good deep and alive.” Albert Schweitzer

Arrogance Always Succumbs to Humility

arrogance humility“The one-a-day vitamin for the soul is helping another person.” Stephen Post

The other day someone asked me about my definition of humility. That was tough. I thought and thought for days and kept trying to come up with something that made sense to me. I know what it isn’t but it is hard to describe what it is. When you get a compliment don’t say I never really do look this good, or this dress has been hanging in my closet for twenty years. That is not humility as some of us might think. It almost seems the opposite.

A simple thank you is enough. At times people really do mean it and other times they want to be nice so either way it is a complement. Humility is not taking the last piece or end piece or constantly letting others take the best chair or place. That is portraying more of a martyr type of individual. People notice martyrs but they don’t notice someone who is humble. I had the notion a humble person was a wilting flower. To the contrary I discovered a person of humility has learned to let go be themselves having a quiet confidence and understanding that in the end winning and losing doesn’t count. Life is truly simple when we peel all of the layers back. Life is about lessons of the heart. When we are not forgiven we learn how important forgiveness is.

When we have felt inferior we learn the importance or respecting everyone’s individuality. We are basically on the road to humility. In life there are never any winners, losers, superiors or inferiors. We can feel that way ourselves or allow others to make us feel that way. Taking control of ourselves and our own lives is about confidence and humility. We are safe in the knowledge that we are learning with the heart and open to the vibrational feelings of others and ourselves. At that point we come to terms with everyone’s feelings of inadequacy.

Humility is a step above those feelings because when you are humble you are flaunting respect for everyone’s journey and are willing to boost all that you can along the way as well as accepting of the help from others. That is my take of humility. The will to trek towards a greater awareness beyond what we see.

“Today see if you can stretch your heart and expand your love so that it touches not only those to whom you can give it easily but also to those who need it so much.” Daphne Rose Kingma

Stop Envy and Heal Pain – Caring For Yourself And Others

stop envy“Shallow men believe in luck Strong men believe in cause and effect.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

We all experience envy throughout our lifetimes. But even though it may always be present, we can keep envious feelings restrained. All of us struggle to balance our lives. We presume on the surface others have life easier. But all of us struggle. Some hide the labor of their lives better than others and some complain less. The grind is enduring for all. Supporting each other as well as managing the envious tendencies can make life so much easier. Praise and gratitude promote healing for our pain, frustration and envy. Complimenting another actually releases our envy. It can evaporate our insecurities and allow us to see the good qualities in another without making ourselves feel diminished. Our talents are real. We need to recognize them. We don’t need to be someone else to gain satisfaction in our lives.

Giving praise to another is simply acknowledging an accomplishment they have been successful with achieving. Many goals others strive to attain may not be anything we are motivated to accomplish. We must think about the price people pay for certain achievements. To be in the Olympics one must forfeit money and time spent with family and friends. Having a job that takes you from loved ones day and night is costly to children. It may provide you with lots of money but little time to guide your children. Gaining more possessions means more duties and gadgets to maintain. On the surface, what we see is not always the complete picture. What we envy may not be what we would ever desire if we realized the cost.

At times another person appears to be superior or have more material wealth or prestige. This person may have more glory honor and money. The question is, why that should matter if we are doing well, making progress and content with our spouse, children, friends and family. If we are not content then we need to elevate our relationships. Put more effort into our interactions and possibly look for a better job or search for the means to promote our education in the desired field. Maybe we need a simple overhaul in the relationship we have with our spouse who may also be feeling unwanted or under appreciated.

By focusing our attention to the positive details in our existence we may find possessions beyond worth. All of us take so much for granted including the many people navigating through our lives frequently. The vacation lasts a week or two. The new outfit gets old quickly. The new car breaks down as well as the new toys. Even technology falls short of the power of love, empathy and compassion. Fame is fleeting. Money does not buy love or friendship. Fortune does not fend off physical or emotional problems.

Support and meaning in our lives comes through our hearts and the love we send out to others. Sending love to others actually increases the love that comes back to us. All of us have the ability and means to increase our love supply on a daily basis. In the end we find that love is all that matters and all that endures. This love includes the many forms of love beyond the physical. When we realize the importance of love we gain a fundamental understanding of the meaning of life. We would wipe out fear, doubt, envy, anxiety and hatred. We would replace the negatives with concern for other’s well-being. That’s the kind of world I would like to experience.

“Happiness is not a when or a where; it can be a here and now. But until you are happy with who you are you will never be happy because of what you have.” Zig Ziglar

“Caring about others, running the risk of feeling and leaving an impact on people brings happiness.” Rabbi Harold Kushner

Never Allow Anger to Overpower Reason

don't allow anger to overpowers reason

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; You are the one who gets burned.”     Buddha

How many times have we began a discussion with someone and ended up in an angry confrontation, or worse, an escalated battle. It happens. Especially when we are tired or simply overburdened, we tend to allow heightened sensitivities to overcome our thought processes. We may want to straighten out a disagreement or confront another about a sticky situation. Even if we have set the time and place, we still must reflect on what we want to accomplish in this planned argument. We are fooling ourselves by thinking we are trying to resolve the conflict, when we are totally attempting to make our own arguments and win the battle.

 We might have pondered the conflict privately but determined we were not to be blamed. Having our facts ready to toss out and our opinions set, we basically are planning our attack. It is an attack because we are not thinking of compromising or seeing another’s point of view. We are thinking about our own purposes and are preparing for battle. This onslaught sends our opponent reeling. They are on the defensive and dig in their heels and fire off their own facts. The conflict immediately escalates and both sides are out of control. Both parties walk away feeling the other person was unreasonable. We blame them for the continued discord. It is difficult to accept any wrongdoing on our own part. We see another’s faults but rarely view our own. We defend our line of reasoning and shoot down the opponents arguments. How stubborn they appear to be.

It is so difficult to accept any blame. It is so difficult to admit we are not completely or even remotely correct in our thinking. We are angry and anger takes over. Questioning our anger is the first thing we need to do. By reflecting on why we are so angry at this person and why we must prove them at fault is important in the healing process. To get over this dispute requires thinking, empathy and giving in to a break-down of predisposed ideas we have created. By contemplating we come to realize the other person has some good arguments and main points. By empathizing we enter into an understanding of their feelings and emotional state of mind. By breaking down the barriers we have created we make room for accommodating their new approaches.

Exhibiting anger never solves any problem. Anger never encourages an opponent to accept our viewpoint. Sometimes we must allow another to do something in their own way even if we believe they are heading for failure. If one learns from mistakes, it is not failure. In the end we might be pleasantly surprised to find out we were wrong. In order to keep peace, both parties must co-operate and learn how to agree to disagree. It can be simple. We don’t have to choose to make things more difficult. If we want a relationship with this person, we need to allow them to have their own opinions.

Our experiences are different. We bring different schematic to our lives from our childhoods through adulthood. Our tolerance levels are different as well as our personalities. What is unbearable for one person is more than tolerable for another. Our likes, opinions, ideals and goals reflect our own being. Our life lessons are varied and attuned to our being. We can only live our own life, and choose for ourselves. To make peace with anyone else we must respect them and their opinions. Stepping down from our thrones permits us to allow others not only to be wrong but also to be right. In the end what we want is connection and communication. We want a relationship that is intact. To have this requires respect and acceptance. Keep anger from clouding judgment.

Anger at times is the result of loss of control. Another is challenging our viewpoints or our status. We feel threatened and retaliate. Fury can be jealousy because the object we desire is sharing themselves with others. Rage can be due to changes we are not ready to accept. Anger is a loss of power and influence. Anger can be our own lack of confidence in our ability to be ourselves. When we fear change we get angry. Those we love the most are the ones who anger us the most. We need this other person in order for us to somehow define ourselves. Many times we are dealing with our own inner issues and our uncertainty evolves into a frustration and anger that turns from inward damage to outward destruction. Resolve to solve your inner conflict before it consumes you and spreads outside of yourself. We always have power over ourselves and can always control our own anger if we choose.

It is okay to let go, whether we are wrong or right. It is admirable to lose an argument, even when we know we are correct. It is alright to display our inadequacies. It is fine to follow once in a while because we don’t always have to lead. It is okay to love someone even from afar because love is free and without barriers. We must remember that by sharing love we have expanded it. We enjoy more support and increased freedom. Love will never be contained and shouldn’t be restricted. It is a better world to spread love than to disperse anger. That will always be a choice.

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” Thomas Jefferson