“I have self-doubt. I have insecurity. I have fear of failure. I have nights when I show up at the arena and I’m like, ‘My back hurts, my feet hurt, my knees hurt. I don’t have it. I just want to chill.’ We all have self-doubt. You don’t deny it, but you also don’t capitulate to it. You embrace it.” Kobe Bryant
“Confidence is a plant of slow growth.” Herbert V. Prochnow
“Our greatest glory is not in never-failing but in rising up every time we fail.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Confidence in yourself has a lot to do with believing in your competence. Whenever we feel we are less of a person, we tend to cower away from others and attempt to stand in the background. Many times we lose the capacity to offer opinions to anything, believing our ideas will be either shot down or laughed at. This wastes a lot of good ideas that were never verbally spoken.
Most of the time we don’t see ourselves the way others do or we promote a different picture of what we truly are. We basically hide the real us because we doubt our competence. I see this as viewing a person who may appear confident because they offer small talk and seem outgoing. They at times hide their abilities. We never view the capacity they have.Competence and confidence are brothers. You need both because if you have competence but no confidence you don’t display your skills. The reverse being if you have a lot of confidence but never foster your abilities they are not developed. One requires both. Along our paths we build up aptitudes but sometimes ignore our confidence in them. That is our mistake.
When I talk with other people one on one I usually find some very interesting notions and new information. I am amazed that the quiet person may like to play hockey or enjoy stream lining. The aggressive person cultivates their garden. I wonder at the hidden qualities and talents that others possess. What I learn is how little we actually understand about others and how much we all keep private.
What I have also discovered is how many talents we have that we don’t acknowledge or view as exceptional and special. Perhaps we under-judge these talents. In a way we have less respect for ourselves. Take some time to think about all the capacities we engage in. Our daily lives are full of experiences proving our adeptness.
I am not organized and have always worked on developing this aptitude. I admire those who cut their time in half when working on something due to their ability to organize even their household items. To them it might come naturally but to me it is total chaos. Those who have the gorgeous gardens and well-arranged flowers exhibit capabilities I have yet to master. The ability of a sense of direction, working with others in a peaceful manner, solve problems through deductive reasoning, seeing an answer amongst a deluge of information, having patience a minute longer than anyone else can tolerate, sensing the emotional state of another and coming to their rescue, having the proficiency to surround their environment with ambiance despite their frugal existence, flexibility, empathy, kindness, caring, understanding heart, work ethic, problem solver, helpful neighbor, awesome cook, open door policy kind of person, good listener, investigative type who shares positive information to others frequently, upbeat person who brings sunshine with their mood and sometimes treats. My list is endless due to our exceptional proficiencies to make a difference in our lives and at times the lives pf others.
Why hide ourselves when we should be celebrating our adeptness. what we consider just being ourselves might appear to others as proficiency. Increasing our confidence helps us express our capabilities. Every breath we take adds to the world’s lifeline. Strangers can be influenced so we can never doubt our effect.
I honestly believe we are all capable of becoming anything we desire. So many of us have been convinced to accept our lot in life as if we had ceilings above us. That is far from the truth. In actuality the world is an open place. Options are everywhere as are people willing to aid us. We must have the conviction in ourselves and confidence in our power to make things happen in our lives no matter how many times we have been defeated or will be discouraged. Sit back, reflect, trust and get yourself up and move along amongst the waves of life. There is just too much available for us and too much ability inside of us to throw it all away.
throughout our lives others have instilled fears and doubts which take us time to defeat. I also believe we expect things to happen quickly and when they don’t we lose our faith. Endurance tenacity and perseverance might be good friends to keep around especially when the road gets tough. With help from them you will get through all obstacles. I would suggest you never give up but most importantly never lose your belief in you and what you can do and what you have already done even if it is not obvious.
“They deem me mad because I will not sell my days for gold; I deem them mad because they think my days have a price.”Khalil Gibran
“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.” Khalil Gibran
“Knowledge of the self is the mother of all knowledge. So it is incumbent on me to know my self, to know it completely, to know its minutiae, its characteristics, its subtleties, and its very atoms.” ―Khalil Gibran