“It is not until much later, that children understand; their stories and all their accomplishments, sit atop the stories of their mothers and fathers, stones upon stones, beneath the water of their lives.” “The miracle of children is that we just don’t know how they will change or who they will become.” Eileen Kennedy-Moore Paulo Coelho
“Lots Of Valuable Effort is the true full form of LOVE.” Aishwarya Shiva Pareek
“To reform the world – means to reform upbringing…” Janusz Korczak
I and everybody else is aware of checking the labels for any pills we are taking so we can check out the hazards. Many of us try to decide if the hazards are worth the risk of taking the pills. As I watch the news daily and witness another assault on a child I wonder if kids should also come with all kinds of cautions and beware symbols. Seriously thou there is so much left out of the venture of raising children. Perhaps there ought to be warning signs or at least a book of instructions. Most of us jump in without a lot of hesitation.
Now I contemplated if that had to do with our pride in our ability to succeed at such a task or if we were so uniformed about raising kids that we never thought to ask the right questions. Either way we are left with a life long commitment with its ups and downs, good times and bad and happy and sad moments.
How many of us would begin such an undertaking if we were aware of the risks. After all kids are a risk factor for all parents in regard to disease, high blood pressure, extreme stress an inability to always think clearly and a huge game changer everyday. It is also important to note that just because you already have one child does not mean you will automatically be able to use the same tactics and skills on the next child. The symptoms change and the side effects are uniquely different. The length of time of stress varies. There must be protection for your sensitivities pride and any expectations you might have that don’t happen.
The needs of the child are different. Some come with a lot of pride and ego. Battling that is never easy. You don’t want to crush their ego but you must strive to get in some humility. Some kids have such little confidence you wonder where they have been. If you have ever tried building up your own confidence then you are aware of how difficult this is to do. You also have those kids with the temper. Now that is a challenge. Those are the ones that push your buttons right up until they leave home or even beyond leaving. Most parents won’t admit to secretly wishing the same kind of a child on them. Of course these will be our future investigators who just won’t give up.
The tantrum kids are always a handful because you appear as a totally deficient parent when it occurs out in public. The child deafens anyone in their vicinity and you can’t escape unless you cowardly give in to the child’s demands. I don’t believe in hiting so that is never an option. I am sure that most parents who have never witnessed such a scene are judging you right to the core. They better hope they don’t encounter a similar situation themselves down the road. Even though you haven’t hit your child, the piercing scream spreads throughout a store and most people will assume that you did. These children will one day likely save lives because they seem to be so not bothered with drawing attention. Their reaction time will be awesome.
Of course the wanderer is never easy. You never know what it is that fancies their attention and draws them away. They are focused and certainly ought to be registered for being a future scientist. As the parent of such a child we are exhausted at night. Don’t you hate the parents who look at you like you don’t know what you are doing no matter what type of child you have? Their kid is behaving and they think it is all about their wonderful parenting skills.
I must say that I am a believer in good loving parenting for all types of kids but I know that it is not easy for parents at all. And we can’t know how difficult it is for others who don’t have the same kind of a child that we have. I don’t mean to rate the kids because then we would have to rate the adults. After all can you imagine the wanderer being in the hands of the temper tantrum person? I suppose this happens often enough. The point is a parent child relationship is not as simple as we might think.
You have the focused kid who wanders because of his deep interest. His parent can be someone who has little patience in waiting for someone to do as he says. This is a calamity waiting to happen. The adult with a lot of ego will have a lot of interesting issues when he is left with a child who likes to keep moving and just won’t stay focused. It is hard to say why most of us embark on the adventure of parenthood. It is never what we thought it would be but actually it is something far grandeur.
I have honestly learned how to love, have patience, be tolerant forgiving compassionate have faith hope and love beyond explaining and a spiritual awakening that has touched my soul. Kids make you smile laugh frown but they help you to go beyond what you had ever imagined or conceived. They bring out the best and forgive the worst in you. We attempt to teach them while every day they teach us strengths we never thought we had. They add so much dimension spirit and soul to our lives. Perhaps we must learn to be tolerant and compassionate when dealing with or child.
They require only love and of course understanding of who they are and what they need to be happy. It takes time to do it right but the ride you have with them will stay in your memory until the day you die I would guess. Of course they do come all packaged and cute and helpless. Immediately and hopefully we are full of wonder and ready to give them love. They count on that and parents can count on unconditional love in return. Parents must return this unconditional love always. If you have kids you should be happy because your life has so much meaning. Remember the kid you ignored at the playground because he couldn’t climb the ladder? Now maybe you are learning how to teach such a child how to do just that without fear. All kids come with a guarantee to enrich our lives in so many ways that we will miss them wehen we tuck them into bed and it is just too quiet. MMMM
“How many of your contemporaries – when asked the question ‘Are you glad you had kids’? – invariably respond ‘Yes, but..’?” Anonymous
“As a parent we have to remember it was not the children’s decision to be born it was ours, so let’s love, cherish, and teach them to be good fruitful and productive people in the society ! Beta Metari Marashi
Parents, “God gave us children for joy and cherish-meant,and not for punishment”
Beta Metari Marashi
“It is easy to be a good parent, to a good child, but what makes a good parent is when you stand by and don’t give up to a challenging and trouble child.” Beta Metani Marashi