“The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence.” Jiddu Krishnamurti
“We are all hypocrites. We cannot see ourselves or judge ourselves the way we see and judge others.” Jose Emilio Pacheco
“People hasten to judge in order not to be judged themselves.” Albert Camus
“No one truly knows what they will do in a certain situation until they are actually in it. It’s very easy to judge someone else’s actions by what you assume your own would be, if you were in their shoes. But we only know what we THINK we would do, not what we WOULD do.” Ashly Lorenzana
Over the years, I have slowly lost my ability to have all the answers.
I discover that I can forgive myself for the times I don’t have answers or responses to problems. I can’t always make someone feel better or find a solution. I lost my ability to know what should be done, but I think I have grown up.
Are there answers, or is truth an illusion?
At times we believe we know what someone should say or do to make things better. We have faith that our answers are the remedy. We never consider why we might be wrong. We are sure we have all the answers. Have you ever considered your truth was false, along with your perspective? When two people are fighting, they are both wrong because they only see their side. The truth is found when both parties accept the fault without the percentages.
So much gets lost in the translation as days and even years pass. A past remembrance is not considering the mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual state of the person at that moment in time. How does one recall the issues and burdens they were experiencing? How do we know the influences we had? How was our judgment? How mature or immature were we? What were our beliefs, jobs living arrangements? There are so many unanswered questions that lead us to consider it is fruitless to trust our recollection of past events. We don’t understand the state of mind and body. People have answers at a later point in time but may be clueless during the event.
We believe we were less guilty and deserve less blame.
We believe experience. That is human nature. Do we place too much emphasis on appearing perfect? Can we show weakness? If we allowed weakness, perhaps there would be fewer lies and secrets. We praise only winners, yet it is harder to admit defeat than state winning. Do we think our ideas are correct? Find out in time that we don’t have all the answers all of the time. We discover how much information is required before we can conclude anything.
It is a human desire to support another with advice.
It is human nature to judge another’s choices when they disagree with our own. Each person picks for themselves. Our answers are personal. Past events are recalled with our perception of the past. It doesn’t make us right or wrong. We use our own lens to discern the truth. Guilt is unnecessary; The past is over. The past shouldn’t dominate the present. We chose past answers based on an array of mental physical and emotional health and needs. Perhaps someone else would choose differently. We can only walk in our shoes and learn from our own mistakes.
We never had all of the answers, and we never will.
The best we can do is never deliberately hurt another individual. We can live our own lives and try to move forward each time we learn a lesson. The lessons can be harsh and hurtful. Instead of blaming anyone for our pain, we must be thankful for the lesson, which helped us to grow beyond what we were. We always have choices. We can learn from hurtful past events and become a better person or we can stay linked to them and be afraid to let them go. We don’t have all the answers, cannot control others, nor blame them for our predicaments. Moving forward means letting go of guilt and blame and embracing the future. Life teaches us lessons about living, and living teaches us how to let go and love.
“When it comes to privacy and accountability, people always demand the former for themselves and the latter for everyone else.” David Brin
“When one experiences truth, the madness of finding fault with others disappears.” S.N. Goenka
“Often people that criticize your life are usually the same people that don’t know the price you paid to get where you are today. True friends see the full picture of your soul.” Shannon L. Alder
“We practically always excuse things when we understand them” Mlikhail Lermontov
“When we make judgments we’re inevitably acting on limited knowledge, isn’t it best to ask if we seek to understand, or simply let them be?” Jay Woodman