“It is hard to be defensive toward a danger which you have never imagined existed.”
Most of the problems in life are because of two reasons: WE ACT without thinking *or* WE KEEP THINKING without acting. pinterest
“The discontent and frustration that you feel is entirely of your own making.” anonymous
Has anyone noticed the numerous road signs of life? Does anyone proceed with caution? I should be the last person to talk about this subject because I am always going full speed ahead. I crash into walls all of the time and then regroup and reflect about where I went wrong.
I tell myself the next time I will think before I talk or walk. That does not happen. The one thing I acknowledge is the truth about thinking and being cautious. I just have to listen to my inner voice before I crash.
Making decisions before reflecting is asking for trouble. I agree that none of us asks for trouble. Why do we end up in dilemmas? I say it is due to wanting to do the right thing but taking the short road instead of proceeding with caution. The long road is always more difficult. I like things done quickly without pain and aggravation. I usually get lots of frustration and mounds of extended work. Why do I repeat this time and again? I need to find an answer for that question. Many of us don’t see ourselves falling into the same pattern but we repeat similar actions everyday.
Somehow, the rush causes us to spill things which makes extra lost time to pick up. I am always reminded of my grandmother’s caution of “Haste makes waste”. I hate recalling those words when I am cleaning up an unnecessary mess.
Some people rush their kids into a car only to have one child fall down and require a band-aid. If we are really annoyed, we blame the child for not watching where thy were going. There are things we forget to take with us like our lunches. When we scoot out the door forgetting our lunch the blame goes to the wife or husband. We may come close to running over the neighbors dog with our driving skills. Why do they let their dog out at such an early busy time of day we think?
We curse the person who poured the last cup of coffee at work and left us none. We made the coffee yesterday and did not expect to do it again today. Our co-worker asks for help on a project but we have no time to give at the moment. Their kids are grown, so what is their excuse we think. They do have kids in college and moving day but I just got through dropping my two and three-year old off at day care and as usual they cried and made me feel guilty. The kids don’t understand the fact that bills and clothes cost money. The washer is fading fast and the car has a lot of miles. My father had surgery and I have to visit him tonight so fixing the handle on the door is going to have to wait. Oh no, I left the kids lunches at home on the counter. I have to call the daycare and ask them to feed the kids for today.
I pick up the kids and before we get home one of them is throwing up in the back seat of the car. I drop them off to my spouse and head off to the hospital. I hate the smell in the car and gag as I drive. How did I reach this point in life? I ask and wonder. When I finally reach home I am so tired I don’t feel like eating and my spouse is annoyed because they made the dinner.
How can they have no feeling? I think, I am not in the mood for talking so I drag myself to bed and shut my eyes even though I am not asleep. I don’t want fifty questions about my job, dad or smelly car. I need to get up early and clean the car or I’ll toss-up my breakfast before I get to work.
Here are the questions for the quiz. Can we slow down? Can we speak with the kids and implore their help? Maybe if we took more notice and listened to what our child was saying we would have heard they had a tummy ache. Would that make us consider working from home that day? Two trips to the car is the cautious way of bringing the stuff I need to work but I was trying to save time. I don’t consider the cost of time it took to pick up the items I dropped because I was trying to save time.
The calmness that we overlook and ignore results in our being annoyed. The frustrations cause us to blame others. The other people get angry and fight back. The battling makes us anxious and self-righteous. All our self-righteous results in standing our ground and faulting everyone around us. We argue with co-workers, scream at the kids, fight with the spouse and endure a rising of the blood pressure within our own bodies. At these points, we consider running away from the problems, divorcing the wife and changing jobs.
An island in the middle of the ocean may be appealing. Does switching partners change anything? Usually not because those minor irritations of life continue when we are focused on rushing to get nowhere fast. What needs to change is our attitude and caution about life. There are plenty of road signs but when we are going too fast we don’t see that we are warned to proceed with caution. If a bit of reflection and calmness along with caution makes a difference in these outcomes can we make the changes? Is it worth it? May we save more time? Where are we going anyways? Have we thought about that?
k”The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future merely by changing his attitude.” anonymous
“Take time today to appreciate someone who does something you take for granted.”
“You cannot stop the waves but you can learn to surf.” Jon Kabat-Zinn