Bullying vs Discipline
Bullying is a problem, but not a recent problem. Most adults have a story to tell regarding a bullying incident they experienced. Perhaps we need to look to ourselves for correction before we try to fix our children. Many times we are not even aware of our own bullying tactics or the emotional burdens and sadness it places on others.
Humpty Dumpty Always Falls
I feel like Humpty Dumpty. I put way too much on my plate and never accomplish all the tasks. I am always playing catch-up and the game, “What should I do first.” I rush around while everything falls apart, which leaves me to work faster. The busier I get, the more mistakes I make.
My Interviews & Reviews
January 2021 Publisher’s Choice
“The Bullying Pandemic”
Author – Pamela Reynolds
Reviewed by Anita Finley, Gerontologist
Bullying has become the word most spoken when it comes to problem children. So, when I reviewed The Bullying Pandemic by Pamela Reynolds, I thought it was about children and its effect on them. Yes, it was. But it was so much more. It was an intimate remembrance of the author’s own bullying by her father and how it has affected her throughout her life. Because of this, she can see it from a different perspective when she deals with her students as their teacher. She discusses many children, and the reader will surely see where they had some of these problems and whether they were handled well. Often it continues to cause these children to bully others, even into adulthood.
On a personal note, I never thought I was bullied until I was discussing Pam Reynolds’ book with one of my cousins. She reminded me how my brother bullied me and why we never had a good relationship in our adult lives. My cousin also told me about her personal bullying situation and the lasting traumatic effects took years to work through.
The author shares stories of how some of her young students were affected by fighting parents, who then bullied their children. Ill health symptoms were caused by bullying at home or at school.
This book opened my eyes and will yours as to how deep a problem bullying is. We must all be aware of it and try to find ways to change these habits.
Pamela Reynolds, at the end of the book, uses parables to explain in a quite easy way just how important simple rules would be better for everyone. I have always talked about the “golden rule,” but that seems too simple. As you read through all the well laid out examples, she shows, with definite results why this is truly a pandemic. We know that trauma is a common term nowadays, whether it is experienced by military personnel returning from battle, or illnesses, and we can add to that list, bullying. When you see the author’s cover of her book, the child is shown in jail, looking out between the bars, asking for help.
Be sure to read the back of her book as she calls it “The Worry Box.” I am fascinated by this idea and am thinking how I can use it with my talks and interviews. Very compelling!
I admired Pamela Reynold’s honesty about her bullying experiences that she kept hidden for so long. What a great relief it was for her to write this book and what an important book it is for readers. For sure, as I am reviewing her book, I know there are those out there who have stories to tell. It may require a therapist to help you or someone you know get help. On a side note, Pamela Reynolds wrote another book, Stimpikins, which is for children, using a stray cat who faced down the bully and taught us the truth about love, life, and cats.
Boston, MA Fox 25
Pamela appeared on Boston's Fox 25 morning news Family Works segment with Elizabeth Hopkins. She discussed Mother-in-law & Daughter-in-law relationships.
St, Louis, MO AM 590 The Fan
Pamela was interviewed by Kelly Lamm on the He Said She Said Radio program on AM 590 The Fan
Baltimore, MD Fox45
Pamela appeared on Baltimore's Fox 45 morning news as the relationship expert. She discussed her new book Mother-in-law Daughter-in-law Dilemma and answered viewers phone calls and emailed questions.
Hartford, CT WFSB TV
Pamela appeared on Hartford's WFSB-TV Better Connecticut show to discuss her new book Mother-in-law Daughter-in-law Dilemma with host Kara Sundlund
Pam Reynolds is an author and speaker on children’s issues and relationships. She had written books about:
• The effect of Bullying on children and education.
• The ongoing struggle between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law as they strive to foster a harmonious relationship for the benefit of their son/spouse.
• A stray cat that changed our family and taught us many lessons about life and the meaning of family and caring. She is completing a 3 book set of insights into life lessons on faith, family, and hope.
She posts frequently on her blog (blog.pamreynolds.me)
Pam has appeared on television, radio, and online programs. She has appeared on news shows in Boston, Baltimore and Hartford and the Huffington Post online. Pam earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Early Childhood Education and a Master of Science degree in Education from the Eastern Connecticut State University. She was a teacher and certified in special education and regular classroom instruction for grades K to three.
As a Certified Emergency Medical Technician. Pam volunteered for 13 years on her town’s Fire Department and was a 7-year member of the Fire Department’s Board of Directors.
Pam has four grown and married children with ten grandchildren. She brings her experiences to her writing and speaking, focusing on relationships and the power of the human spirit.