“To doubt everything or to believe everything are two equally convenient solutions ; both dispense with the necessity of reflection.” Jules Henri
Fear can and does take over our lives. Chunking down our fears shows us they are unfounded in almost every situation. Let’s face it, we are paying a terrible toll for what most likely will never occur. We may pity the person who is afraid of heights or afraid to go into crowds yet we don’t notice our own shortcomings regarding fear. We fear another’s getting the better of us so we contradict what they say. later we regret what we said and more anxiety prevails. We add some guilt on top of the fear. It might be easier for us all if we make a conscious attempt to think before we speak. Once we’ve spoken we need not wonder about worthiness or repercussions of our actions.
We might attempt to speak from the heart and not the hip. If we speak from the heart we have not intentionally harmed anyone. How a person interprets what was said is their issue. Later when we are trying to fall asleep, we won’t be bothered by nagging thoughts of if we did this or that and was it good or bad. Try to always think first and then have no regrets. If you are later proven wrong about something go from there adding thought before you speak again. If we fear losing love of any kind question why. Do you think the sun will not come up again? Do you think no one else loves you or you will not ever love anyone else? Do you want to control that person rather than just love them? In our hearts there is room to love many others.
We don’t have to be the only ones filling anothers void. Others have room in their hearts to love many people. The more love we have the more love that comes back to us and the better person we become. So why fear sharing love. Why fear losing love. If we respect and nurture our love it should thrive. Love should never be put in chains. If we have to lock up a treasure in order to hold on to it then it is not free and therefore not ours.
Fear of change is a very big fear for most of us. Change is something we can always count on. Again one must think of change as a chance to add more experiences and people into our circle of love and friendship. People are not scary. We need not fear a job change. There is always the quiet person, the “expert”, the loud ones etc. It is as if we never left the previous employment. Finding love and friendship in one place should give us hope of finding it in many other places. We all want acceptance and people to respect and cherish. Our goals are the same in many ways. Stop fearing the unknown because we have some knowledge of it.. Truthfully we are aware of our shortcomings more than we are aware of our skills. we have talents that no one else can compete with. The fact is we are so unique. Besides as I often say life is not a competition. Life is an awesome learning experience.
Somehow I don’t think our higher being is worried about how much technology we’ve learned or how many school books we’ve memorized. I believe we will be judged on just how much love we have learned to give and spread around regardless of what comes back to us in the process. It’s about giving our hearts away time and again to others. In that way we learn to love ourselves. In loving ourselves we can love others more and risk more. We all have the power so don’t fear, just go on out to face the world and always give it your humble loving best.
“People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. If you do good, people accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Do good anyway. If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness makes you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest person with the smallest mind. Think big anyway. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build it anyway. People really need help but may attack if you help them. Help people anyway. Give the world the best you have and you might get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.” Anonymous
