“Your strength is in your calmness, in your clarity of mind. Strength comes from putting the negative aside without reacting. win in calmness, in consciousness, in balance.” Yogi Amrit Desai
“Don’t ever mistake my silence for ignorance, my calmness for acceptance, and my kindness for weakness.” Unknown
“In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away” shing xiong
In every part of our lives we hope to gain control. What frustrates us the most is when our plans go awry. Of course there are always plenty of people we can blame and do fault. We have such a belief in our ability to make things happen, it never occurs to us to look at our helpers along life’s way. These supporters may never get a thank you but I am sure they are not waiting for one.
Most of us have never stopped to review why we still have such faith in our agendas. I like to plan my days however, I am totally aware of the extremely few times my agenda ever flowed smoothly. The few times that my day went according to plan made me think it was purely accidental. Yet I and many others make lists, phone calls e-mails and reservations along with gaining commitments from others. It just never goes according to plan.Every girl has her dream guy fashioned in her mind. It might be blonde hair blues eyes dark skin and medium height. She finds romance with the tall fair black haired brown eyed man. Some plan on four or five kids until they have one who is a challenge. They narrow their selection to two.
How many of us plan to make a lot of money, retire early and spend the rest of our lives doing good work for the benefit of all. Reality sets in along with bills, kids and college plans. We find ourselves older more tired and exhausted to even contemplate, about the load on our plates. Is it that we somehow get diverted from our dreams or is it that what we dream is unattainable? We should have faith in our plans, choices and marriages. I think perhaps we underestimate what life is.
No one ever said we would find total serenity and happiness yet we continue believing we and our spouse will be different. Our parents may have messed up their lives and proceeded to get a divorce. We assert our confidence and hold onto the faith in our everlasting marriages. That is an awesome and expected option. Another expectation we should comprehend is that life never rolls out smoothly and we should be warned of this fact right from the start. It won’t deter our plans but it might foster a more realistic attitude about life in general. This knowledge may perhaps prompt us to downplay our expectations a bit. I don’t believe this is the same as telling kids there is no Santa Claus.
Our lives are not full of misery and pain. They are at moments full of epiphanies. They are also stacked with obstacles that test our courage and ability. To understand this from the beginning may aid in strengthening our spiritual qualities. Demonstrating patience helps us see things to the fruition. Having empathy allows us to understand another’s lack of patience. Displaying tolerance towards others gains us the tolerance we need when we must cross over the same bridge. Loving and caring of another merits us those same attributes in our need. What we send out we will get in return.
If one expects the perfect life then they will be devastated and defeated. Life will disappoint them at every turn. None of us is perfect all of the time. Husbands and wives are disappointing at moments but usually there are many more pleasures within our lifetimes. The quality of forgiveness is worthy of the highest of praises. When we forgive we gain our own peace of mind. Forgiveness allows us to start anew with a blank slate. It also shows faith in our power to get back on our feet after having fallen down with the support of someone we love cheering us on with faith in our capability to achieve.
Jobs may come and go. Money may mount and dissipate. Live in the moment. I know many people with young children who worry about college before their child is walking. I would suggest they save some money but live in the present day and work out what you require for that moment. The future may look different when we get there so why worry about stuff that will likely not occur.
If the couple starts working morning noon and night to save and forgets about the importance of spending time with the child then they have lost more than what they would lose from a lack of education. The present moment demands its’ own requirements. It is enough to fulfill and think about. If we constantly live and fear the future then we don’t enjoy the days rewards and blessings. We miss so much by thinking about stuff that might happen. Today is occurring and demands all of our attention. By giving the present the focus it deserves, we eliminate the fear of tomorrow.
Each hour calls for a mindful attitude. By our being considerate, we alleviate double pressures and stress. Look at your six month old and see a baby you can snuggle instead of seeing a college kid with a price tag. Don’t ignore your funds and duties but never allow them to devour your time and your life. The fairy tale of endless smooth sailing is a myth. The tales of heroes amongst us is not a fairy tale. Just check out yourself in the mirror once in a while. We are the heroes who overcome all odds and make things work. Life hurts as it builds us up. Let go of your fear of the future and release inner peace for the present.
“When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.” Unknown
“A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may heal and bless.” unknown
“The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.” Unknown