“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; Not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.” Khalil Gibran
“Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness.” Khalil Gibran
“Love and doubt have never been on speaking terms.” Khalil Gibran
In today’s demanding world it is extremely difficult to ever be alone with our thoughts. As a matter-of-fact I think that is why so many of us enjoy the technical devices. It gives us an escape at various points throughout the day. This is truly not contentment as much as it is momentarily escape from the problems of the world. Our minds become focused on a game or networking so we can ease the mind from its’ constant ideas, questions, doubts and fears.
For health and sanity reasons it is important to slow down and relax. Most people understand that as an impossibility. Now we can make the impossible possible. It is important to strive for our family and produce as nice a life for them as we can. Again I think possibly what we think they want or need is dissimilar from the truth. Kids all want and need the same thing and that is love and attention follows love.
This answer appears to be too simple for most of us to accept. Sure we are tinking I love my kids but they like to go places and see things and they like the toys they see at other peoples’ homes so how do I get it all unless I spend a lot of time working. It is also true that if one is not working and gaining money things cannot be bought. What is lost is the actuality of their needs and wants.
more than anything in the world kids love spending time with their parents. A walk down a busy street is full of wonders. Their are shadows on the sidewalk and insects crawling and flying. What a discussion as well as a science lesson. Their are steps to corners to count and colors to identify and cars and traffic and buses to discuss. How many wheels and the sizes are important. There are discussions regarding where everyone is going and their childlike predictions. Maybe there is a park or store full of wonders. Perhaps there are workmen or linemen or mailmen or taxis. Of course with bridges and tunnels and skyscrapers there are most likely more questions than answers. On a rainy day we have the rainbos and puddles and mud as well as the unintentional plashes from cars which always bring delight to kids who still enjoy the surprises of life.There is the treat of an ice cream at home or even a cookie.
That is the genuineness of their desires. They totally enjoy the time and treasure the time spent with parents. As adults we forget the actuality of happiness. We have come to believe that material things and money must be spent in order for us to have given our kids something. We think in terms of what is measurable. Kids are still considering love and connectedness. how important that mom and or dad is listening to them without any distractions.
I always remember the song about the cat’s in the cradle and spending time with your child at a later date in the future. When the future arrives the parent has the time but the child is grown on their own and without any time for the parent. After all they have learned the lesson well.
Maybe by decreasing our wants and coming to terms with the actuality of a child’s wishes and requirements, we can slow down our pace and quit reaching for so many quantifiable objects. For those who are envious of people with substantial means, they might comprehend that they already have everything at their disposal to be an awesome parent. Of course the cost is not money but time and effort. The same is true of friendships. Offering time to friends is more worthwhile than our constant search for wealth.
Although there might be less money I would venture to say there will be less stress. Maybe the media has successfully implanted the seeds of searching for more, bigger, better and improved items. We all take the bait and at times forget about what the truth actually is.
I believe we all need a break from the falsehood of desiring more. It doesn’t make us feel better. Substantial stuff requires our attention and fills our minds with more distracting objects to focus on. If we get so caught up in this game about what brings us peace we end up dispersing energy in all directions and being unable to focus on the important people and items.
Finding serenity is as simple as watching the sun rise or set. You have to make the time to observe the happening but it is an awesome experience available to all. The pleasure of a young child’s hand in your own and the trust it implies can be overwhelming if we comprehend the magnitude of the moment.
The truth is life moves along swiftly so it is idealistic if we understand what the genuine treasures are. Take time for yourself and slow down. the chances are good that it allots you freedom to enjoy being alone with your thoughts. A calmness envelopes you, which comes from less stress, which comes from releasing some of the unnecessary objectives. This works for those with and without kids. Pursue happiness first and gain serenity.
“Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children.” Khalil Gibran
“The most pitiful among men is he who turns his dreams into silver and gold.” Khalil Gibran
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” -Maya Angelou