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“Divorced from the cosmos, from nature, from society and from each other, we have become fractured and fragmented.”    Daisaku Ikeda

“If I don’t understand you, I may be angry at you, all the time. We are not capable of understanding each other, and that is the main source of human suffering.” ― Thích Nhất Hạnh

“In modern society most of us don’t want to be in touch with ourselves; we want to be in touch with other things like religion, sports, politics, a book – we want to forget ourselves. Anytime we have leisure, we want to invite something else to enter us, opening ourselves to the television and telling the television to come and colonize us.”   ― Thích Nhất Hạnh

I am so aware of how confusing life is. I observe that all of our lives are replicas of a disorganized family, society and world. If one looks up the word fragmented, we are given such meanings as existing or functioning as though broken into separate parts. We are also told it is living in a state of disorganization or being dis-unified. If we are a fragmented personality then we create a fragmented family and the result is a fragmented society and world.

Have we ever felt misunderstood, under-appreciated, confused about what to do, anxious, helpless and unworthy? Those are perhaps qualities of feeling broken off from the world or detached from other people. It is easy to fall into such a situation. Every day we are concerned with so many important, but trivial matters. Those unimportant issues can leave us drained to the point of being broken into tiny pieces like a drinking glass.

We are burdened with so many things we must attend to that we forget about the vital areas of our lives. At the end of the day we are just happy to have completed the must do  items at the expense of our physical, and mental health, not to mention the deprivation of our spiritual being. Somehow we are enslaved to the world’s list of things that are relevant. Everyone around us is conforming so we must also dance to the tune. We don’t stop to question why we do it or to what benefit our running in circles will achieve.

Basically we have become swallowed up in a world of busy work. This nonsense eats our time and energy. How many times have we stated our surprise at a new month beginning, or a new season approaching. We are not really living our lives  but simply existing and running our lives across the land and into the ground. The faster we work, the more pieces of ourselves break apart.

We are scattered in our thinking and become unsure of who or what we are. We at times don’t see our purpose or point in life. We are never positive that we are doing anything right yet we never alter or question our course. We have lots of companions, traveling the same route. That gives us a false sense of security. It must be correct because so many people are going in the same direction. There is no time for thought or reflection. There are many things to accomplish.

In reality we are isolated from others. The more people we attempt to connect with, the more incomplete we become. Perhaps it is time to be us and slow down the pace. We can’t  keep trying to be and do what others are being and doing. Where is  the understanding in that situation. That only carries discontentment and more confusion. As much as we attempt to fit in with others, we only succeed in losing ourselves. Probably we don’t really even know ourselves.

All of us are incomplete and searching for love peace and acceptance. The dilemma is that we always seek it from others and without rather than searching within. We will never receive love peace and acceptance from the outside world until we find it within ourselves. That comes with understanding. People may love us and offer acceptance but there are times they offer us rejection. It is at those times we must come to an understanding of who we really are. We can’t be diminished by such treatment, when we have the knowledge of who we are within. We are enough.

The family is a fragment of our lives as are jobs. Appreciating the family without being absorbed and controlled by it keeps the love from collapsing. We fragment it when we make demands,  promote guilt become possessive to the point of allowing no other sunshine but our own to nurture the object of our possessiveness. Reflect on the amount of time we spend protecting what we deem as our own. By attempting to be everything we promote our own disintegration.

Competition, jealousy, envy and many more detrimental thoughts, are all conflicting energy absorbers that relentlessly fracture us. Listening to others who constantly try to control and lead us is futile. They are as mixed up as we are. We place such useless tasks on our shoulders that it gives us little free time to think for ourselves. Now the big trouble is that without thought, we can never find truth. We remain in a dream state of division of the self.

Our need to fight for our rights, get even, take revenge, trounce the enemy, triumph in all situations, come out on top, feel fulfilled, become the world’s version of happy, control, have power, prove we are right, be more intelligent, be the martyr, be the good person, or a zillion other fantasies is a perpetrated falsehood. Observe the stores and there tremendous amount of false items to enhance us in a variety of ways. What is wrong with the real us.

Look at the media promoting a better us by doing wearing or acting in uncertain ways. We are practically told what to like, wear and do with our free time. It is in vogue to prefer certain items and music and heroes. Whatever is in fashion is brainwashed into our minds. We don’t question maybe because we are too busy with those menial tasks.

Most of us are doing things out of duty rather than love. It looks like the correct thing to do and people are observing. We Think we must sympathize because the world is watching. In the meantime we haven’t time to think about the sympathy and why it should really be given. We behave in a robotic way. Empathy and caring should come from within us not from the demands of the outside world. We need to understand more about what is behind caring, loving and compassion. If we don’t really comprehend it then we are not really learning how to be a better person.

Unless we want to continue being divided into factions within ourselves and throughout the world, it is pertinent we become unified within. So many of us are misunderstood, under-appreciated, and lonely. It pushes us into following false ideas and people. Truth is within. All we have to do is pay attention and listen with or hearts to the intuitive thoughts attempting to manifest in our lives. Remember it is no competition and anger is left outside the gates.

“We have negative mental habits that come up over and over again. One of the most significant negative habits we should be aware of is that of constantly allowing our mind to run off into the future. Perhaps we got this from our parents. Carried away by our worries, we’re unable to live fully and happily in the present. Deep down, we believe we can’t really be happy just yet—that we still have a few more boxes to be checked off before we can really enjoy life. We speculate, dream, strategize, and plan for these “conditions of happiness” we want to have in the future; and we continually chase after that future, even while we sleep. We may have fears about the future because we don’t know how it’s going to turn out, and these worries and anxieties keep us from enjoying being here now.”   ― Thích Nhất Hạnh

“To know what you don’t know is the beginning of knowing.”    Confucius“If we take something to be the truth, we may cling to it so much that when the truth comes and knocks on our door, we won’t want to let it in.”  Thích Nhất Hanh

“Our notions about happiness entrap us. We forget that they are just ideas. Our idea of happiness can prevent us from actually being happy. We fail to see the opportunity for joy that is right in front of us when we are caught in a belief that happiness should take a particular form.”  Thích Nhất Hạnh

“Be Yourself. Life is precious as it is. All the elements for your happiness are already here. There is no need to run, strive, search, or struggle. Just Be.”  Thích Nhất Hạnh

When you begin to see that your enemy is suffering, that is the beginning of insight.”  Thích Nhất Hạnh


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